Afghan wedding

Afghan weddings are unique and modern celebrations of the people of Afghanistan. It is a tradition in which, like King Amanullah Khan and Queen Soraya Tarzi, the bride and groom whom are respected as King and Queen of the night. This was also the custom in the wedding of Aminullah's cousin to whom he placed down his sword, and kneeled to the ground and told the bride and groom that their wedding night was truly respected, they can make any command as a king and Queen for the night.^[1] for the wedding they wear green dresses

To welcome guests entering the door, a line of women stand on the right and a line of men on the left. The bride and groom's families greet and escort the guests to their tables. Guests in an Afghan wedding are dressed in their best clothes and jewelry. The guests gather around their loved ones and talk about their lives. When all guests have arrived or when the room is about half full the musicians starts playing traditional music or contemporary hits. At the downstage corner are the decorative chairs for the bride and groom. In front of the chairs is a table with highly decorative ensemble that includes candles and flowers.

A traditional Afghan wedding usually begins around 5:00 pm and ends usually at 2 am, or as long as it has been agreed with the hall. In the middle of the wedding, around 8:30 pm, a special song is sung called "Ahesta Boro and in pashto pa besmillah qadam rawakhla," meaning "walk slowly," which commemorates the bride and groom's arrival. While the song is played like the Wedding March in American weddings, everyone begins to stand up and smile until the groom and bride are set in their place. While the bride and groom walk down the aisle, the Quran (Holy Islamic Scripture) is held upon the new couples head.

Nikah[]

This is a religious Islamic marriage ceremony in which a marriage contract is agreed upon. It is traditionally held in private with the gathering of the couple's immediate family and is led by an Islamic clergy, the mullah. In Afghan weddings, the bride and groom are traditionally kept in separate rooms. The bride is represented in the Nikah by her father or a close male relative. The Nikah is negotiated before the mullah between the groom and bride's representative. The groom is asked three times if he accepts the terms of the marriage. After the groom accepts, the mullah then comes before the bride and asks three times if she accepts the marriage. Once the bride accepts, they are pronounced husband and wife. After the Nikah is complete, the bride and groom enter the wedding hall and a traditional song will play for their entrance. After food is served, there are a number of traditions that will take place. One famous tradition that takes place during an Afghan wedding is the bride and groom being covered with a decorative shawl under which they are given a passage to read from the Quran, followed by a decorated mirror to view themselves for the first time as a married couple. In the past decades, this would have been the first time that the bride and groom would have seen each other's faces due to their marriage having been arranged. The shawl is then lifted and the bride and groom feed each other sweets, followed by intertwining their arms and offering each other a sip of a beverage, usually the juice of a fruit. Other traditions include placing henna on the bride and grooms hand and cutting of the wedding cake.

Henna[]

Historically, little incisions were cut into the bride and groom's palms so that they could be joined in blood. As time progressed it was replaced with henna (also spelled as hennah). Henna is a plant and which is use for dying hair, fingernails, leather, and wool. Henna is considered more sanitary and less messy. At this moment a girl dressed in traditional Afghan clothes would come through the door with a silver tray with candles and an assortment of fresh flowers with little containers of henna dancing and twirling all the way to the bride and groom. The mother of the groom would place a teaspoon full of henna onto the bride's palm and cover it with a triangular cloth made of fine and shiny fabric. The bride's mother would place the henna on the pinkie finger of the groom and likewise cover it with the fabric.

Meal[]

About one hour after the Bride and Groom first walked down the aisle, they stand to get food first. Guests then form a line and walk alongside a decorated buffet, where assorted authentic Afghan foods are presented. From the Shohla e Goshtee to three different varieties of rice called palou and chalou, there are many kinds of kabobs: kebab e chopan, chaplee kebab, teka kebab, shaami kebab, also mantu aushak with Afghan bread, and naan will conclude the dinner table. For dessert firnee, sheer brenj (rice pudding) and baklava with fruits of the season are served. After the desserts are finished, the bride and groom walk over to the three-story cake. As the couple cut the cake, a family member will cut it into small pieces and serve the guests.

After which comes the hours of enjoyment: the musicians play faster songs and the dance floor fills up as everyone dances until the end of the ceremony, which often goes on until dawn.

Attan[]

Attan is the national dance of for the Pashtun population in Afghanistan and the traditional dance among the Pashtuns. Even though other ethnic groups perform it in the weddings it is not the national dance of all the groups. Tajiks for instance perform what is called qarsak (panjshir). Attan is a circular dance, performed at the end of ceremony, and its origin is dated deep in Afghanistan's pre-Islamic Avestic era. Attan used to be a religious dance involve many circles around the fire, some say it was dance of warriors around the fire performed before going to war, although this tradition was lost during the , or it has been modified, but soon during 14th century in the midst of Hindukush mountains it became famous. Although in modern Afghan weddings Attan is performed only once, it is traditionally performed twice (at start of the wedding and at its end) and sometimes even more, especially among Pashtuns.

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